Seven Signs That Your Love Has Faded
A few simple things to look for when times are hard in a relationship.
Is it really love or is it just convenience?
It seems that just when you think things are looking up for you here comes that nagging little problem with your relationship. Now they may seem like simple little things but to us women they are really huge and that is one thing that unfortunately men will never be able to understand. They will never know how much it means for them to want to do the dishes or feel happiness in opening a door for us at the store. In this day and age it seems like all those gentleman are all extinct now. Yet another unfortunate thing is when we women feel the need to stay in a relationship that we know is fading or we fail to see the triggers that he is no longer interested in what we have to offer him. Herein you are going to find just a few things that can help you see that your love may not be what it once was and it might be in danger of ending. Also for all you ladies and men out there wondering, yes I have been through this before and know that these are the signs you are about to be left or are no longer wanted.
Sign number one is something that most people don't really pay attention too, or at least I never did since I am always in a rush anyway, when your partner decides rather than wait on you he runs ahead of you rather than walk beside you. Now for most people, especially some guys, this is not really a problem but it shows a lack of respect for the person that you are with. If there is no respect left for the one you live with then there can not be any love for them either because the two come hand in hand in a relationship. For months this happened to me and of course I was clueless but once I began to think back on what it was like those last few months I see all the signs and wished I had noticed them sooner.
Next comes the phrase "we" which for some reason only ever seems to come up in regards to household repairs, chores or errands that need to be done. Naturally this so called "we" ends up being "me" or in your case "you" since you are the only one who knows how to unclog a toilet or fix a picture that fell off the wall. Not to mention that when family comes to town that is the all too common word when it comes to helping his family out. Of course we all know it ends up being us women folk who tend to their family so that they can go tend to the boys and their football team.
Number three is when your homes personal computer becomes the air that your partner breaths. That in itself was a major hint and is when I started to look for a way out at the time. This is when your partner does nothing but sit in front of the computer day and night and of course blacks out the screen as soon as you walk in the door. With this comes the irritability and moodiness that men say women are so fond of displaying but yet they too can be so darn good at it. A note to all ladies there is such a thing as a history on the computer and also on their messenger sites, if I were you I would get to know how to use it. I know that I did when I was going through this and got some pretty startling results once I looked around. Of course this all came in extremely handy during the divorce proceedings when he said I cheated when in reality he did.
When it becomes expected of you to do all the household maintenance, chores, driving and all things related to the proposed "we" statement then you should really open up your eyes and ears to see what is going on. This is when all things are just thrust upon you so that they can sit and relax with no strings, no chores and plenty of time for that wonderful home computer romance they have just started with an old lover. By far this is the most frustrating of all the signs because it will drive you mad to just see him sitting there on his butt doing nothing.
Next is when the affection in the relationship starts to dwindle and he seems more frustrated than happy to be with you. This is when even a good bye kiss in the morning seems to just be too much for him to handle or offer to you. By far this is one of the signs that is more hurtful than any of the rest and harder for anyone to get over whether you be male or female. Someone not wanting to show you they care or cringing at the sign of your affection towards them is the worst thing that someone can do to you in a relationship.
The last two are the gigantic red flags that show up out of no where if you have not seen the other signs, the living room becomes his man cave and the "my friends word is God syndrome". This is when you can do nothing right and their "friends" are only there to cause major problems. When anything that has to do with you and your partner's finances, romance, work, life, location, jobs is all run by his friends and it is asked of them what they should do. By this time your word is nothing and of course us women folk don't know a thing about finances, working or being out of the house at all do we?? This is the most insulting of all the signs of love fading because you get to see just how little you do mean to them and how bad it has gotten. For those of you who think, " I can fix it", "time will make it better", I thought the same thing and have been divorced now for five years. Women can't fix everything and we shouldn't have to fix the man that we love because he should already be a good man not something that we have to train like a dog or fix like a broken toy.