Modern Women and Sex

tony leather By tony leather, 17th Jul 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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Anyone who's ever been in a long-term relationship knows that keeping it in working order often takes a high level of dedication and willingness on the part of both parties involved

Modern Women and Sex

Casual sex, it seems, is no longer srtictly for the boys. A generation ago, men had a monopoly on playing the field, but modern women seem to have caught up. Nowadays, women are acquiring quite a reputation for one-night stands and vacation flings. So why are women sleeping around more than ever before?

Anyone who's ever been in a long-term relationship knows that keeping it in working order often takes a high level of dedication and willingness on the part of both parties involved. Going out of your way to work through a difficult period in the relationship demands much more time and effort than just calling it quits.

Today’swoman often has niether the time nor patience for all that. She's probably too busy trying to get her career in high-gear and spending time with her friends to dedicate too much time and energy to a boyfriend, so the investment in time and sheer effort required for a serious relationship just isn't worth their while. They prefer keeping things casual and strictly for kicks, rather than having to deal with the potential inconvenience of a boyfriend.

One-night stands are perfect for these women because they get all the good stuff, as they see it, and none of the bad. They get to go on the dates, enjoy the dinners and weekend getaways, and the rush of having sex with a new partner, without having to contend with the worrying possibilities of long term love.

Other women choose sleeping around over being in a relationship because they're scared of opening themselves up to a man, and making themselves vulnerable. Sleeping around is a good way to avoid developing any real feelings for another person, which would create the possibility of them getting hurt again.

For some girls, sex is just the most fun they can have. In fact, they love the act more than the guy they happen to be with. For these sex is the ultimate pastime and they are going to get it as often as possible. They're hot to trot and want instant gratification. Take the example of Clare Duggan, 23, a clinical data processor and mother-of-one from Llanelli, South Wales, UK.

To quote her comments.
‘I LOVE sex and can't imagine life without it. I lost my virginity at 16 and since then I've had hundreds of sexual partners. I wish I hadn't slept around so much because I don't like men viewing me as a slag, but I just have to.

Over the years, however, one-night stands have sometimes been the only way I could get my fix.
Quite simply, sex makes me feel incredibly happy, both during intercourse and for a couple of hours afterwards - then I want more. I think it floods my body with happy hormones and it's a great way of releasing tension.

While I almost always orgasm, I get enormous pleasure from the experience even without climaxing.
If I have to go even a day without sex I feel incredibly frustrated and so uptight that I sit chewing my nails and find it impossible to think about anything else. I also feel lonely and crave that all-consuming attention you get from a partner during lovemaking.

I sleep with strangers because I can't live without sex - but the ideal would be a man who, like me, wants sex three times a day and loves me as well.Without sex I feel like I'm cracking up.’

Lots of women believe that men have been playing this game much longer than they have, and thar women have been treated as little more than playthings by some men out there. So they sleep around as a way of exacting a kind of revenge. Not on any guy in particular, because every man must pay for the heartache that was inflicted on them by a single one in the past. Instead of understanding that they had one or two bad experiences, they proclaim themselves victims and lump all men together. By sleeping around, they're hoping to hurt other men like they were hurt, and plenty of guys are really happy that there are women who think this way, no doubt.

Some women use casual sex as a way to forget their exes. They sleep with a variety of men in order to get over the hurdle of ending a bad relationship. They avoid loneliness like the plague and will do anything to fill the void. By not focusing their attention on one person, they're sure not to let any emotions interfere with their desire to drown their sorrow in numerous one-night stands. When they're ready for another boyfriend, they'll usually stop sleeping around.

It's also a fact that many women have a hard time saying "no." They try to be there for their friends and families, their bosses and co-workers, and the list goes on. Sometimes, this willingness to please extends to their personal lives as well, and they find themselves unable to turn down a man's advances.
They actually feel guilty turning a man down for sex. They may even go as far as to think that because a guy took them out for dinner and was nice to them, they're obliged to sleep with him.

Most guys love these type of women, obviously, but the overall message is pretty clear. Gone are the days of men ruling the playing field, because women are just as capable and willing as men are in this modern world. This should make every normal guy happy, though some might actually be turned off by it. How do you feel about this new kind of sexual equality?

Fact is, the man is just as likely to be the hunted as the hunter these days in the sexual jungle, so there really should be no reason to be without a sexual partner. All is fair, they say, in love and war, so why not just go with the flow?


Modern Women, Relationships, Sexuality, Society

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mainly non-fiction articles, though I do write short stories, poetry and descriptive prose as well. Have been writing for over ten years now

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