How to get along with your husband?
Getting along with your husbant is important,you may love each other,however,you always quarrel with each other,why?So we all should learn to get along with your husband or your wife.
How to get along with your husband?
Yesterday I quarreled with my husband,and this morning he did't talk to me as usual,I was very angry and I didn't want to talk to him,and he always gets the better of our quarrels.So this time I want to insist in the end!
I told my friend this thing,but she didn't agree with me,she said:"you should know whether you want to get long with him,if it is,then you should learn to understand each other."She gave me those advice:
1.Set you intent.
Intentionality is an Emotional Intelligence competency. It means saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Make the commitment to do what you need to to make your relationship thrive.
2. And while you are at it, develop your Emotional Intelligence.
The EQ competencies will help you relate better, solve problems better, learn how to manage anger, communicate, negotiate, and express your love (and other emotions) appropriately.
3.Remember every day why you married this man and let him know it.
As the saying goes, There's a realm of silence beyond the grave. Someone who feels truly appreciated behaves much different than someone who is ignored, abused, belittled, or treated like a servant (i.e., ?Did you take out the garbage??)
4.Say it, don't wish it, assume it, hope for it, or wish it away.
Part of EQ is emotional expression. Know your emotions and how they work. Express yourself to your partner, and be sure and do this just as often when things are going well and you're happy, as when there are problems and you're unhappy.
No one can read your mind, and men are typically lower on Empathy to begin with. Don't hope it will just go away one day without mindful effort, or that he knows what you're thinking, how you're feeling or what you want.
In fact, why not make it a practice when you lie down at night to tell each other why you married them in the first place.
5.Appreciate him for who he is and what he does for you and the family.
Don't take any of this for granted. You should have many examples around you of husbands you wouldn't want to have. Don't keep it a secret that you got the best guy in town!
6. Don't compare your husband to anyone else's husband.
This doesn't work because he's unique, and so are you, and so is your relationship. He lives with you, not some other man's wife. The dynamics between the two of you are unique.
7.Learn what his triggers are, and yours, and avoid them.
Men's tempers generally are quicker to ignite, so why not go ahead and get yours on a leash? Resist ALL urges to use a weakness or vulnerability against him at a time when you're angry.
8.Have a discussion with your husband during a quiet time about anger.
Anger is especially detrimental to men's health. Contrary to popular opinion, it is NOT healthy to vent your anger, nor is it healthy to suppress it. Both of you need to work constantly on valuing being in relationship more than being right. When couples argue all the time and create a toxic environment, no one wins, and no one's ?right?.
9. Don't notice so much, listen FOR the love with your OWN love, and be adamantly and relentlessly forgiving.
Under the pressures of today's lifestyle, we all say things we don't mean. We get sloppy or we're in a rush and blurt something out. We forget things. We get irritable.
Catch him doing something right and praise the act. Don't spend so much time on the negatives or you'll cause them to grow.
If he brings you coffee in bed in the morning, you can pick up his underwear off the floor occasionally.
10.Express yourself very clearly and very often.
When I heard him say, I calmed down, and I think these suggestions are useful.