How Parents Hinder a Child's Development

Athena By Athena , 12th Oct 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/hiopjj_u/
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Each child has a unique intelligence profile. However, this cannot be fully appreciated and nurtured if the parent exhibits these unhealthy attitudes.

Two Negative Attitudes of Parents That Deter the Development of Their Children

Each child has a unique intelligence profile. However, this cannot be fully appreciated and nurtured if the parent exhibits these unhealthy attitudes.

Attitude Pitfall #1
“I want my child to be just like me.”

Do not expect your children to have the same talents and inclinations as you do. They are still children and some parents abuse this authority to raise and create a clone of their own, thinking that this is the best way their children could give pride to their parents and the family.

A parent with great interpersonal skills may be frustrated with a child who would rather be alone and daydream. Another example, which I have personally witnessed several times over, a child good in music or arts, might not be appreciated by parents who are in the corporate line of work.

Think “Are you raising your children for your own good or is it only for your own ego?”

Attitude Pitfall #2
“I want my children to achieve what I didn’t.”

Passing down your frustrations and unfulfilled dreams to your children is unfair to them if forced into their systems. If you’re a frustrated musician, don’t be inclined to enroll your children into all sorts of music instrument lessons when he’d rather be doing experiments or writing poetry.

Remember, their future should be about them achieving things with their own potential not about “you.”

According to Dr. Howard Gardner, a professor at Harvard University who developed the Theory of Multiple Intelligence, “As parents, we are our children’s first educators. Do not prejudge the child. Observe him.” “What may work for you may not work for him. Respect their differences. Each child should be nurtured and celebrated!”

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Child Development, Children, Learning, Multiple Intelligence, Parenting

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author avatar ashan1614
13th Oct 2011 (#)

I agree 100%. We can not live our lives through our children. We must let them find their own way and each become their own person.

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