Help, I'm In Love With A Married Man

D in The DarlingStarred Page By D in The Darling, 25th Jan 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/iq4j8erj/
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No man has ever made me feel this way before. He's everything a woman dreams of in a man. I'm Crazy about him,but he's a married man. There are laws and religion to contend with too. What Should I do?

A Letter To the Psychologist- Dinthedarling

Dear D,

I believe you’re the only one that can help me.

D, I’m in love. I love this man to bits. I’m crazy about him. Crazier is the fact that there’s another woman in his life. She’s my colleague.

Should I let him go and give up everything? If I don’t, will this guilt go? Whenever she’s grumpy, I blame myself for having eaten all her supper up last night; making her sleep on an empty stomach! What should I do? Please help, I’m in love with a married man. Recommend a book too.

Lindsay Heart.

Lindsay's Commended For Talking

Hi Lindsay,

Before I recommend a book, let me commend you for deciding to talk to someone instead of bottling it all up inside you. In life, no matter how stingy and greedy you are, there are things you can’t eat alone. Problems are such things. You need to share them with friends. That's what friends are for.

I don’t know whether you met him before or after he got married? If after, how did you react after finding out he was married? Was it love or spite, just to get back at his wife?

Since you’re crazy about him, what exactly do you want; a mental hospital? If you’re married, would you tolerate this? Would you share your man?

Good Men Are Few and Always Taken

Religious or not, adultery’s serious. It’s not sacrilegious though when a woman falls for a married man. It’s natural. Good men are few and always taken. Why God created only one Tiger and one “Dinthedarling.” Only He knows. That means a woman will have to climb over another woman’s fence to have a taste of a good man. What’s unnatural is a woman loving several men. Let’s face facts here. Men are fewer than women. Biologically 1:3. Where will other women find men if one woman gets them all? I’m not chauvinistic. I'm only trying to be realistic, but still accept my apologies!

Choosing to become either priests or gay, and wars where men die over issues women could easily talk over or the worst being scratching and tearing of each other’s clothes, is another blow to women. I'm so afraid to say: Willy-nilly, women will always find themselves sharing men because men are just not enough.

Women Are God's Best Creation

Fortunately, women are the best of God’s creation. Qualities like patience, kindness, forgive and forget; less possessive, caring and sharing are manifestations of God’s greatness.

Lindsay, grow some balls! Talk to his wife. Come clean. Being a woman she’d understand women’s plight. Women should stand together. Men shouldn’t play with your hearts just because they secrete women’s nerve calming milk!

No Religion Can Stop It

Mere fact that you’re dating means he can marry you without leaving his wife, if he really loves you that is. Laws and religion shouldn’t stop him now when they didn't put any parameters in place to stop him from dating you.

If the law and religion can't give you the man you need and the happiness you deserve, both are useless to you and should keep quiet. You're not a slave to any religion. It's there for you to make sure that you find happiness both in this world and in the hereafter. If it doesn't give you that happiness, find the one that will. Government too, should serve you. You put it in power. If it doesn't you got the right to vote it out!

Religion and law are both shaped and manipulated by men; to their advantage. Prohibiting others from marrying more than one woman without offering a solution to the shortage of men, isn't practical at all. It’s only tactical in depriving women of their rights when the same men cheat on their wives and condemn children to the streets.

This is a social problem requiring an urgent, practical social solution. If any religion or government wants to be taken seriously, this is one social disparity, a social discrepancy, causing great social ills that ought to be faced head on.

Lindsay, like any other woman, you too deserve a man and have children of your own and be happy! Go get your man!

A bestseller, “Traces of Tears of Desire” by Dinthedarling is your book! Oh, sorry, not published yet but will soon be!

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author avatar D in The Darling
Degree in Psychology & Philosophy. As a lover, I'm sincere. As a Philosopher, I tell the truth. As a Psychologist, I speak my mind. As a man, I accept my weakness; not holy. I'm damn wicked at this!

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author avatar debdebbdebby
25th Jan 2011 (#)

very well written and interesting but as a psych now you know the right or wrong and it really has nothing to do with any religion
i think that would be more of a culture thing! BUTT I DO LIKE YOUR WRITING.. much love debby
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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks a lot Deb,
Culture varies hence more relative than religion and politics which seem to have more of a universal tinge to them and a broader appeal. You know me!

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author avatar sgkeat
25th Jan 2011 (#)

It is the personal value that needs to be protected. I like the way it is shared.

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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks a lot for your wise comment!

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author avatar christopheranton
25th Jan 2011 (#)

I do like the mixture of wisdom
and wit that you put in this very good article.
Keep up the good work.

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author avatar debdebbdebby
25th Jan 2011 (#)

i do agree with christopheranton a very good mixture -- not being able to get to the end result ---- and i like the question& answer ..and best of luck with your book...

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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Deb,
That was a Psychologist at work. By the way, I was actually talking to a couple of friends caught up in this in a real life situation!

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author avatar debdebbdebby
26th Jan 2011 (#)

oh i believe it ---i guess all the schooling you have entitles you to the juicest news --a lot of stress i bet for you!! knowing too much--lol

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author avatar D in The Darling
29th Jan 2011 (#)

Deb,
Hahahahaha!
Stress, not really!

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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks Chris.
Sometimes I feel I have to put into practice my Psychology and Philosophy knowledge. Religion was one the courses I dropped on the way. It was nice writing this article coz all I did was just look at life the way life wants to be looked at!

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author avatar bronnamdi
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Another good read from you. Kudos.

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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks a lot Bronnamdi

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author avatar Artur Victoria
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Good point to discuss.
Thanks for sharing
Artur

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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks Artur.
Things like these need to be discussed on every forum. Where do we start?

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author avatar Humza
27th Jan 2011 (#)

hmm I am just confused as to what to comment! I mean dont take it wrong, thinking how to compliment.
U know dinthe I would like to say a few things, as far as the male female population is concerned, ur heck righto at that very point that to eliminate this social evel more than one marriages shud be allowed to eliminate social evils.
But a far as ur go get the man advice is concerned that I sort of a lill bit disagree, coz The oint is that after u get married u always like the wife of ur neigbour thts every other women apart from the one u hv, thts wrong!!!
But if the guy isnt into the lady then she shouldnt break her colleagues relationship! But if the guy is also havin some probs not becoz he started liking the other lady but some other issues before the entry of this lady, then its ok to leave and go for the one infront of u!
Thnx for the share












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author avatar D in The Darling
29th Jan 2011 (#)

Hamza,
Thanks for the comment.
Go get your man is said to a woman already in love with a married man. There's no one saying he should leave his wife!

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author avatar James R. Coffey
27th Jan 2011 (#)

Interesting article, and interesting discussion.

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author avatar D in The Darling
29th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks James
That makes me smile to know I got a few smiles and even some frowns which when they mix, you can get a good fix! Hahahaha!

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author avatar Tranquilpen
28th Jan 2011 (#)

Almost smacks of Dr. Ruth in the 80's Great article

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author avatar D in The Darling
29th Jan 2011 (#)

Smacks of Dr. Ruth,
Tranquilpen, that sounds not just wowsome but awesome! Thank you very much!

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author avatar LUTHER CHIKONAZ
30th Jan 2011 (#)

should we introduce this subject, no no why don't we open a college for you mr Darling so we have it like:
Subject> Darling
Teacher > Darling D
School > Darling
You are a darling pliz don't you dare stop

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author avatar D in The Darling
31st Jan 2011 (#)

Oh, Luther,
I'd really like that. Let's make it happen. Hahahahaha!
Thanks for your support.

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author avatar Tranquilpen
30th Jan 2011 (#)

You are most welcome

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author avatar D in The Darling
31st Jan 2011 (#)

God Bless!

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author avatar Retired
31st Jan 2011 (#)

Truly a great post. Thanks for sharing.

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author avatar D in The Darling
31st Jan 2011 (#)

That means a lot to me Rojas. Thanks a lot!

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author avatar Denise O
31st Jan 2011 (#)

Well D, we are going to have to agree to disagree on this one. Not all of it but, sorry too say, a lot of it. Now mind you, it is just my beliefs I can fall back on and my belief is, What is not yours, is not yours. To take is to steal and that is just plain wrong. It be a man or your neighbors car, stealing is stealing. Right is right and wrong is wrong. All I can say is, heaven help the woman that ever tries to get my man. The good thing is, I never have to worry about it because, I married a good man from the start. Congrats on the star page, it is well deserved. As always, thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar D in The Darling
31st Jan 2011 (#)

Oh, Denise,
So' you don't understand the plight of women with the shortage of men! Hahahahahaha! That was a counselling session with one of my patients. Lol!

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author avatar debdebbdebby
31st Jan 2011 (#)

so that must be why women are holding better positions and higher standards these days...lol
the next we will be president ...and make the man stay home and clean and babysit ---duh--men are so selfish--lol -- i know i have 2 grown sons..

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author avatar D in The Darling
1st Feb 2011 (#)

I think men would love that. Just for women to bring the cash home and they booze it all away!

Selfish, oh yes and don't forget possessive but gives his woman lavishing care. Staying at home won't change the fact that men are in a serious shortage though

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author avatar Denise O
1st Feb 2011 (#)

Good men are that's for sure.
D, nahhhhhhh I hear them, I had to kiss one too many frogs before I found my prince.:)

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author avatar D in The Darling
2nd Feb 2011 (#)

Good men and good women are still out there. What worries is the shortage of men not just good men. Hahahahaha!

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author avatar ppruel
1st Feb 2011 (#)

Great article dude. I have written ten articles on virtues that will heal our hearts, homes and nations - they might help...Congrats.

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author avatar D in The Darling
2nd Feb 2011 (#)

Thanks a lot Ppruel,
You're a talented writer. I'm happy to have met you here!
Let's do this!

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author avatar LOVERME
25th Feb 2011 (#)

Well Ur an outstanding writer, that's why u get pages marked, I haven't had any but I still must say I have written one tooo many articles on this subject. U want a summary so here its. Why have people introduced religion and law into sexualism? Simple, authority and power and business. All religious places will have to close down and lawyers will need a begging bowl and psychics alone will flourish. Why not dispense with marriage totally? Let all go to a free club and willingly mate, with willing persons, same sex or otherwise or alternate. Also if you produce kids, as it is u kick them out at 18, why not simply deposit them in a Government Depositary and both partners will have to pledge maintenance, till 18 years of age. As far as gayism and lesbianism is concerned, there will be no kids hence no problems. Should anyone want to adopt his own child he she may be permitted to do so. Or adopt some kid from the pool, till he she is 18. How do you like my version? will I get a page star kind, no never mind I know it. I won't coz u will ask me to poemise it, which i will do tomorrow. Thanks din darling

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author avatar D in The Darling
30th Mar 2011 (#)

Lovelyhoney,
This seems to have some patches of brilliance. The only thing that's lacking is reasons to back up your arguments like of what benefit will it be if lawyers became beggars and what advantage will it bring in doing away with marriage? It's those positive thoughts that improve the quality of writing. Positive ideas often become lessons that people learn in order to change their lives for the better.
Lovelyhoney, I believe no one will ever ask you to write something in a poem form if it doesn't sound like one. Thanks for your comment.

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author avatar Severly broken hearted
9th Jul 2011 (#)

PLEASE HELP ME. I sad to say that I have fallen in love with a man and just found out that he is married. His wife called me after having an investigator watch him and after doing so, she informed me. He told me that he was single and even used a false name. he traveled over 800 miles to see me as I live in the south and he lives up north. My heart aches for this man that I know lied to me and has told me he's sorry and to forget him. The problem is I can't. Help.

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author avatar D in The Darling
26th Dec 2011 (#)

If you have been in love before and felt exactly the way you feel about this guy now, then you got the answer. meet another guy and tell yourself he's the right one for you and tomorrow will be a beautiful day.

Don't cry for what you can't have coz you'll never have it. Spend those tears on something that has added a value to your life.

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