Help, I'm In Love With A Married Man
No man has ever made me feel this way before. He's everything a woman dreams of in a man. I'm Crazy about him,but he's a married man. There are laws and religion to contend with too. What Should I do?
- A Letter To the Psychologist- Dinthedarling
- Lindsay's Commended For Talking
- Good Men Are Few and Always Taken
- Women Are God's Best Creation
- No Religion Can Stop It
A Letter To the Psychologist- Dinthedarling
I believe you’re the only one that can help me.
D, I’m in love. I love this man to bits. I’m crazy about him. Crazier is the fact that there’s another woman in his life. She’s my colleague.
Should I let him go and give up everything? If I don’t, will this guilt go? Whenever she’s grumpy, I blame myself for having eaten all her supper up last night; making her sleep on an empty stomach! What should I do? Please help, I’m in love with a married man. Recommend a book too.
Lindsay's Commended For Talking
Before I recommend a book, let me commend you for deciding to talk to someone instead of bottling it all up inside you. In life, no matter how stingy and greedy you are, there are things you can’t eat alone. Problems are such things. You need to share them with friends. That's what friends are for.
I don’t know whether you met him before or after he got married? If after, how did you react after finding out he was married? Was it love or spite, just to get back at his wife?
Since you’re crazy about him, what exactly do you want; a mental hospital? If you’re married, would you tolerate this? Would you share your man?
Good Men Are Few and Always Taken
Religious or not, adultery’s serious. It’s not sacrilegious though when a woman falls for a married man. It’s natural. Good men are few and always taken. Why God created only one Tiger and one “Dinthedarling.” Only He knows. That means a woman will have to climb over another woman’s fence to have a taste of a good man. What’s unnatural is a woman loving several men. Let’s face facts here. Men are fewer than women. Biologically 1:3. Where will other women find men if one woman gets them all? I’m not chauvinistic. I'm only trying to be realistic, but still accept my apologies!
Choosing to become either priests or gay, and wars where men die over issues women could easily talk over or the worst being scratching and tearing of each other’s clothes, is another blow to women. I'm so afraid to say: Willy-nilly, women will always find themselves sharing men because men are just not enough.
Women Are God's Best Creation
Fortunately, women are the best of God’s creation. Qualities like patience, kindness, forgive and forget; less possessive, caring and sharing are manifestations of God’s greatness.
Lindsay, grow some balls! Talk to his wife. Come clean. Being a woman she’d understand women’s plight. Women should stand together. Men shouldn’t play with your hearts just because they secrete women’s nerve calming milk!
No Religion Can Stop It
Mere fact that you’re dating means he can marry you without leaving his wife, if he really loves you that is. Laws and religion shouldn’t stop him now when they didn't put any parameters in place to stop him from dating you.
If the law and religion can't give you the man you need and the happiness you deserve, both are useless to you and should keep quiet. You're not a slave to any religion. It's there for you to make sure that you find happiness both in this world and in the hereafter. If it doesn't give you that happiness, find the one that will. Government too, should serve you. You put it in power. If it doesn't you got the right to vote it out!
Religion and law are both shaped and manipulated by men; to their advantage. Prohibiting others from marrying more than one woman without offering a solution to the shortage of men, isn't practical at all. It’s only tactical in depriving women of their rights when the same men cheat on their wives and condemn children to the streets.
This is a social problem requiring an urgent, practical social solution. If any religion or government wants to be taken seriously, this is one social disparity, a social discrepancy, causing great social ills that ought to be faced head on.
Lindsay, like any other woman, you too deserve a man and have children of your own and be happy! Go get your man!
A bestseller, “Traces of Tears of Desire” by Dinthedarling is your book! Oh, sorry, not published yet but will soon be!