Guide us, but never restrict us.
By princess sarah, 6th Jan 2012 | Follow this author
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Like a bird in a cage is what we feel when parents overdo their guidance.
Guide us
The secret of success in parental guidance is knowing where and how to guide us. One has to know when to allow his or her child make up their mind about something.
Teach them the norms. Make them some kind of reminders what can be done and what can not be done. From there the child can take it. If the child stumbles and falls, be there to listen, and tell them how it should have been done instead.
On boyfriends and girlfriends
The child does grow up, and once a teenager, there is sudden interest in the opposite sex.
Sometimes, parents want to control them. They might even set an age when his or her teenager can have a boyfriend or girlfriend. This just makes them more unruly because the more you restrict them, the more they will hide things from you.
Be their friend. Tell them your life when you were a teenager, how you fell in love with your husband or wife. Tell them it is normal to fall in love, but never play with someone's heart. Once, there is rapport, the teenager will learn to trust you and tell you voluntarily all the things happening to him or her. From there you will be able to guide them with both of you happy.
On careers to take
Never impose something on them which they do not like. Because in the end, it is your son or daughter who will suffer. Ask them what interests them and what they love doing. Always remember that if they get into a career which they love doing in the first place, they will be more likely to succeed.
On business
The same thing as above, if you see your son or daughter interested in something, give them your support. Encourage them and guide them on how to start a possible business on a thing they are interested in.
There is nothing as great as a parent who knows how to really guide a son or daughter. I hope this article will be of help to parents.
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7th Jan 2012 (#)
That made a lot of sense, princess sarah. Thanks for this share.
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7th Jan 2012 (#)
it happens..but we own this life.....
thanks Kabayan
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7th Jan 2012 (#)
t.y. buzz and cowboynextdoor for your comments and for reading my article.
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20th Jan 2012 (#)
As a parent I have learned there is a fine line we must walk, when trying to help our children. Just remember, we do it out of love. even though yes, I have been told by my kids before, enough mom. LOL
Thank you for sharing.:)
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2nd Feb 2012 (#)
:) Thanks Ma'am Denise! I will remember that. :) :) :)
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2nd Feb 2012 (#)
:) Thanks Ma'am Denise! I will remember that. :) :) :)
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2nd Feb 2012 (#)
:) Thanks Ma'am Denise! I will remember that. :) :) :)
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2nd Feb 2012 (#)
:) Thanks Ma'am Denise! I will remember that. :) :) :)
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19th Feb 2012 (#)
Hell Princess, just dying to read more of your articles!
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