Are you too cool a parent to discipline your kids?

RaydaJ By RaydaJ, 17th Feb 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3mylropj/
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How to discipline your children to be well mannered and disciplined

Your kids' behavior is not cute to anyone but you

Are you one of those parents who believe that disciplining a child is something left better for later than sooner? Do you find yourself cleaning up all the time and the chores never ending? Can little Johnny, four years old, throw his toys around and leave his clothes strewn around the bedroom for you to pick up? It is time for both you and little Johnny to wake up and smell the coffee grinds on the floor and get out the mop. Most times parents are so enamoured with their kids that the kids can scream from the top of the stairs or hang from the chandelier and the doting parent will say, aahh… isn’t he cute? When the time comes for them to instil real discipline, they don’t know what to do because cute little Johnny is in control.

The A, B, Cs of discipline

I’m the most beloved and doting mother that there is, but the moment I came home with my son from the hospital what seems like a hundred years ago now, I took him straight into his room and put him in his crib. First, he needed his own space, and two, I was not going to turn Ella Fitzgerald or Sarah Vaughan down on the stereo. The location of the crib tells everyone that that is the baby’s domain.

Do's and don'ts when disciplining a child


• Do not sleep with your baby in your bed. Teach your child independence from the start. Let him become more familiar with his own space, where he is being bathed, cuddled and loved. If your child is fed and comfortable, put him down in his crib where he can be a little by himself and fall asleep on his own. A new mother who takes a short cut at this stage by picking up your infant every time he whimpers, pays the price later on.

• Having said this, it is all right to have sessions with your kids on special occasions where they can all clamber onto the duvet and have a little bonding session.

• Don’t let friends and family members disrupt the child’s sleeping time by picking him up when he is asleep. Take your guests into the living room. Don’t gather in your infant’s room.

• Once you make a rule about something, stick with it. If your child misbehaves at the supper table and repeatedly spits out his food or lets the spaghetti strands hang from his head, tell him that there is no television now and that he has a five minute timeout. Don’t let him change this rule about waiting in his room for his time to pass.

• Don’t shout at your kids; screaming is more a release for you than for them and does not help anyone. You can be more effective taking the situation in hand and just leading little Johnny to his room. A screaming child can’t win just because he can shout louder than you. And you are the boss, aren’t you?

• Don’t bribe your child and don’t be taken in by promises which you have repeatedly allowed the child to break before. Besides, it will show that you have no confidence in your actions. The same with your teenage son. If he does not do his chores, there is no allowance. If he rails at you, tell him you love him, but that he first has to prove himself.


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Bad Behavior, Bad Boys, Discipline, Discipline And Toddlers

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Published novelist of ten books, dozens of short stories, and hundreds of articles. Will focus on health which has many areas, and on parenting.

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