A New Train of Thought
By 1Faithmorgan, 14th Mar 2012 | Follow this author
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How does the child deal with entering a new household and how do you adjust your lives to accommodate that child?
Child in Need
When a young child enters your household it is chaos from the word go especially when children have never been a part of your lives. You can be sitting folding the ironing with not a care in the world and suddenly you are inundated with a stream of a child's consciousness. Sometimes it is "babble" sometimes it is emotional and sometimes the child is just reaching out looking for a hug.
Every minute you used to have to "just do this now or nip here or there" are gone. you have to re-structure your daily routine and you have to try and re-structure some of the child's daily routine too. This can be trying for both parties as each is used to their own routine or in some cases the child may not have had a routine initially.
A Childs Mind at Work
You may want to be prepared for any (if any) unexpected story's which may catch you off guard. A young child is resilient but only if you let them talk about their thoughts. Never push for information, if you are attentive enough and spend time interacting with them, their tales will be told in a natural flow of words which feel right to them.
More importantly to that, never react to anything unexpected in front of the child as children can also be very closed off and distant if they feel they have said something wrong. Reacting in the wrong way can often break the child’s confidence and cause them to close themselves off.
Lastly
Make the child feel like they are home. In some cases children have been passed around many family members so give them a place of their own. A place they can escape to if they need to. A spare room is ideal for a new child to the household however this is not always possible so find somewhere that the child can make his own (their own desk might help).
Smile even when its hard and protect the child from becoming an adult too fast. Children are resilient but they are fragile too so don’t let them overhear conversations they won’t benefit from.
Spend time with them daily and build a relationship up with them. Give them the home they deserve and the opportunity to become their own little characters.
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14th Mar 2012 (#)
Nice article come back, Faith. Welcome back! Where have you been?
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14th Mar 2012 (#)
Very good article ,a very difficult time of stress and adjustment, well done.
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14th Mar 2012 (#)
Wonderfful advice here. Great post, 1Faithmorgan. Thank you.
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14th Mar 2012 (#)
Well done faith good read.Children can be difficult a lot of the time even your own.
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14th Mar 2012 (#)
Thank you all :) I am around buzz, just real busy these days :) I will try and get here more often though :)
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16th Mar 2012 (#)
A well written and thought out article Faith, and it is great to see you here with us again..
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18th Mar 2012 (#)
Faith, this article touches my heart very deeply. Been there done that with my nephew. Long story wont bore ya. Great advice for all those taking in a child. Thank you for sharing.:)
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21st Mar 2012 (#)
Dear Faith, thanks for the nice write.
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21st Mar 2012 (#)
I have ready your story denise and truly do understand how hard it can be.
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29th Mar 2012 (#)
Faith: The child you took into your home is so fortunate to have you. I am verging on the same situation but this will be a grown young man with older teenage friends. Help !!!!!! Maybe the situation might change as he has bred in Angleterre. Sorry to put it like that but I am between a rock and a hard place, sometimes feeling overwhelmed at the thought even. You wrote so well about this.
Ivyevelyn.
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1st Apr 2012 (#)
I sometimes feel overwhelmed too but I look at the gift the lord put on this earth and see that she has the potential to change someones life one day and i try my best to help her be the little lady I know she can grow up to be :) Not a great explanation but it's what keeps me sane right now :)
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27th Apr 2012 (#)
Children are so precious. We all need to do our best. You have expressed this well here.
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