A New Train of Thought
How does the child deal with entering a new household and how do you adjust your lives to accommodate that child?
Child in Need
When a young child enters your household it is chaos from the word go especially when children have never been a part of your lives. You can be sitting folding the ironing with not a care in the world and suddenly you are inundated with a stream of a child's consciousness. Sometimes it is "babble" sometimes it is emotional and sometimes the child is just reaching out looking for a hug.
Every minute you used to have to "just do this now or nip here or there" are gone. you have to re-structure your daily routine and you have to try and re-structure some of the child's daily routine too. This can be trying for both parties as each is used to their own routine or in some cases the child may not have had a routine initially.
A Childs Mind at Work
You may want to be prepared for any (if any) unexpected story's which may catch you off guard. A young child is resilient but only if you let them talk about their thoughts. Never push for information, if you are attentive enough and spend time interacting with them, their tales will be told in a natural flow of words which feel right to them.
More importantly to that, never react to anything unexpected in front of the child as children can also be very closed off and distant if they feel they have said something wrong. Reacting in the wrong way can often break the child’s confidence and cause them to close themselves off.
Make the child feel like they are home. In some cases children have been passed around many family members so give them a place of their own. A place they can escape to if they need to. A spare room is ideal for a new child to the household however this is not always possible so find somewhere that the child can make his own (their own desk might help).
Smile even when its hard and protect the child from becoming an adult too fast. Children are resilient but they are fragile too so don’t let them overhear conversations they won’t benefit from.
Spend time with them daily and build a relationship up with them. Give them the home they deserve and the opportunity to become their own little characters.